No – it’s not a fear of cats………or gel……
Catagelophobia – the fear of ridicule, being put down or embarrassed
These days there seems to be a “phobia’ for just about everything. However, when meeting with clients for the first time, one of the most common fears they have is actually publishing their work.
They worry about negative reviews. They worry about what mom, dad, grandma or the priest may think. They worry about losing friends or even clients if they are transparent and let the world see them for who they truly are.
The problem with this thinking is that there will always be someone who does not like what you have to say. There will always be someone who doesn’t like how you deliver your message. There will always be someone who doesn’t like you.
But guess what? It doesn’t matter. Again, for the people in the back: It. Does. Not. Matter!!
Why? Because for every person who has a negative reaction to you or your story, there are DOZENS more (at least!) who will have a positive reaction. People who want your story. People who need your story. And you are choosing to ignore them over a few negative responses?
Doesn’t seem very fair.
But, I get it. When I first started my business, I was told I needed to blog. Share my story. Let people get to know me, because after all, people do business with those they know, like and trust right? And if my business was primarily online and referral-based, how was anyone to get to know me if I didn’t put myself out there?
I was terrified. Petrified. All the -ieds that make you not want to do something. But guess what? I did it anyway. I typed my first blog. Uploaded it. Closed my eyes (seriously!). Took several deep breaths and pressed the button that made it all real. Then I quickly shut my laptop and found something else to do, just CERTAIN I would be flooded with negative responses the next time I opened it up.
You know what happened?
Nothing. Nothing happened. Because I hadn’t built an audience yet. I was just getting started. So all those fears that were holding me back, were for nothing. All they did was delay my progress and my success.
Eventually, people started reading what I was writing. And they liked it!!! The appreciated it. I received messages of thanks and gratitude. Sure, I received the occasional grumpy response, but those no longer mattered to me because I was able to focus on the people my message was resonating with.
This is where you need to get. To where you SEE the people who need you and appreciate you and turn the rest into white noise.
You don’t have a fear of publishing and going public. You have a fear of ridicule. Of being called a fraud. Of someone saying you’re not good enough. Do it anyway. Prove to yourself that the RIGHT people are YOUR people, and watch your success soar!